Your partner says to stay at the job you've got as you need stability, your best friend tells your to old to try something new or to young to settle down. Recently married couples get the "when are the kids coming".
You are steered in all different directions, and you have no idea on what is right and wrong. You get confused and overwhelmed by what is the right life decisions you're going to make.
What do you listen to? Which opinions are valuable and which ones are pulling you further from what you truly want?
You can't make a wise decision based on what everybody else wants. Anyone who gives you advice that they are certain you should follow, or else. Or else what? If you don’t settle down, stay single, or change jobs, are you doomed to fail?
Following other peoples, advice is easy because you're putting the responsibility of the outcome in their hands. If you want to live the life you want, you must take responsibility for your choices and take charge of your decisions.
We are given constant opinions on how we should live our life throughout the day from the media and from others around us. It's not a new concept that we are inundated with ideas on how we should live every minute we're awake.
So what do you do about it?
When you’ve got to make a decision, and you're not sure who exactly you're making it for, have a minute alone and soul search. You want to be alone with your thoughts no phone or Netflix in the background, just purely alone.
Physically remove yourself from anything that will cloud your judgement and influence your decision.
Then consider these questions:
1. Did I come up with this idea or was this influenced by someone else?
Indeed check in with yourself if this really what you want. Forget about what everyone else wants, what do you want? Is this something you would do if no one else knew about it? When you think about the decision, does guilt appear thinking you're letting others down or are you afraid to be judged by them if you don’t make the right choices? What do you want and is this really what you want? What does your own morals and beliefs tell you? If you feel like this is right go with your entire heart and soul and make it happen.
2. How do you feel about the potential outcome of this decision? Does it excite you?
Be honest here; you’re the one who wins.
Are you excited about the idea?
We are always convincing ourselves out of what we want. Don’t ignore your feelings and your gut instinct. Does your morals and beliefs line up with the outcome? We are told to be logical, except when we have been at a job for 6 months and never want to get out of bed in the morning, If you don't have a passion and loose the drive then how is it logical?
It's easy to convince yourself that something another person wants for you is exactly what you want. When you think about being and doing what you want, does that excite you, or make you uneasy? Navigating these feelings takes some guts. The goods news is that you already have the answers right now. All you have to do is really listen to yourself about the feelings you have and make the choices that keep your best interests in mind when it comes to the way you choose to live your life.
3.Does this choice feel good/right/honest/authentic?
Ask yourself does this choice feel good? Does it feel right? Does this sit true with you and your life? Am I being authentic? Try this once or twice and tell me I'm wrong when I say it feels amazing. Blow off the plans you made with the acquaintance that you’ve been dreading. Stay in watch your favourite tv show and eat ice cream because you won't enjoy being out at a club if it's not where you truly want to be.
Oh, and the judgements from everyone else? They will absolutely get over it. If they don’t, it's your life that your living, not theirs. More often than not if the people close to you see you happy, that’s all that matters anyway.
The more we make choices that resonate with us authentically, the more it will make us feel good and align us with what's most important to us and the more fulfilled we feel on a daily basis. Accepting responsibility for our life and the decisions we make also puts us in the captain's seat of our ship. The decisions we make will steer us to do just about anything we desire.
Being true to yourself and who you are and what you want out of this thing we call life is where the process of changing your life starts.
Make a choice based on what you truly desire today .
Be Authentic be true, be you
Let your inner beauty shine,