What does being authentic really mean?
If you are questioning this you may feel lost in your own identity right now. I know you feel lost in yourself that you can't remember who you truly are. Nothing is making you feel fulfilled or happy. Do you feel whole when you wake up each day or do you feel something is missing?
Are you living your authentic self or the fictional self (whom the world told you to be)?
When asked “who are you?” The best answer you can think of is something like:” I’m a mother”, “I’m a bartender”. Often, we answer with not who we are but what we do, what our social position is. When asked “who are you? Do you even know yourself?
You are not defined by your social status, your job or role in society. Your authentic self is your skills, talents, and wisdom and individual things that identify you as you. It is only the things that are uniquely yours and feels fulfilling and right.
When you live a life that you are not faithful to your own authentic self, you find yourself feeling incomplete and unfilled, as if there is a hole in your soul. That is because your living as a fictional self. You might find it is a lot easier to follow what everyone else is doing. It may be easier to fill the roles your family and friends expect of you, rather than becoming who you really want to be, honouring your true gifts and talents. Society tells us who we should be but what if we don’t truly like the next fad. Like who would have thought white trainers would be a thing?
We tend to follow everybody else as we are afraid to be vulnerable and be noticed. We
fear of rejection or looking silly. Why do we hide and conceal our true self is we create a false sense of self within ourselves, not our true self within? We are made to believe that beauty is perfection and we must fit in order to feel accepted and that we belong.
Brene Brown explains "In fact, fitting in is the greatest barrier to belonging. Fitting in, I've discovered during the past decade of research, is assessing situations and groups of people, then twisting yourself into a human pretzel in order to get them to let you hang out with them. Belonging is something else entirely—it's showing up and letting yourself be seen and known as you really are.
Many us suffer from this split between who we are and whom we present to the world in order to be accepted, (Take it from me: I'm an expert fitter-inner!) But we're not letting ourselves be known, and this kind of incongruent living is soul-sucking."
Living this way drains your life passions. The fictional self-sends you false information about who you are and what you should be doing in your life. It blocks the information and makes you forget who you are; you start to lose connection with your authentic identity. Relying on information from your fictional self-you're putting your trust in a broken compass.
In the moment of feeling lost, you must look within yourself. Ask yourself are you living your authentic self or fictional self?
Even Doctor Phil was a person who caved into social expectations, money and was trapped in a life chain momentum. He ignored his own voice and his life absolutely sucked. Dr Phil hated his career, house and hated himself so deep. He felt like he was living life for everybody else and couldn’t get out. He totally re-engineered these parts of his life that were not who he really is and build on those that felt right because they were right.
How do you find your authentic self?
What is needed then to resurface your authetic self? This a personal project of self-transformation aimed to recover the lost you and reinstall it to its proper place at the centre of your life. This project is becoming the person you really are.
This is diving into your mind body and soul and relearning who you are, your core values and beliefs, gifts and more.
What is needed then to resurface your authentic self? This a personal project of self-transformation aimed to recover the lost you and reinstall it to its proper place at the centre of your life. This project is becoming the person you really are.
Want someone along this ride with you? I am trained to ask the questions you may not know to ask yourself to get into the deeper essence of what makes you YOU!
Being authentic is accepting your own self, you have your own belief systems, your own thoughts, no one is the same as you. Being authentic is discovering and being available to show the world the real you. You can live a fulfilled and happy authentic life, take the leap, you will never look back.
Let your inner beauty shine