It's okay not to be okay
You know it’s okay not to have it all together. To feel lost. To feel stuck. To feel empty. It’s okay to cancel a commitment, its ok not to answer a call. Its okay to take a day off. Its okay to speak up. It's time to stop ignoring your feelings as if they don’t feel valid or somebody is worse off — Darling it’s okay to feel the way your feeling.
We are all allowed to fall apart sometimes. It's time for you to feel the raw emotions that you’ve been hiding away within yourself. Cry, scream, write it out and then burn it, just let it out.
Stand up tall, hold yourself up and pick yourself up off the ground sweetie, letting out your feelings can help improve your wellbeing.
We can often hide our emotions even to the ones closest to us. There is so much stigma around weighing others down with our problems or feeling like we must be strong all the time that we don’t reach out, we don’t deal with our emotions deep inside they just build on top of one of other. Until one day our stack of emotions is so big, we start to crumble and break down. We don’t want to weigh someone down or be a burden, so we choose to keep it in. But in truth, our friends understand a good friend is there throughout your ups and downs. They are here for you to celebrate your wins but also to pick you up when you have fallen flat on your face. If you feel like a friend might lift your spirits. Grab wine grab your phone and dial your boo. I know there are some males that are afraid to speak up about their emotions. Society says its “unmanly” to show emotion. But if you start being vulnerable and feel the way your feeling and own your story and struggles, you too can feel a weight lifted off your shoulders.
Here are some tips suggestions to help pick yourself up;
1. Take time out for yourself. Now this one I can predict your thinking I don’t have any time for that I am too busy. Let me tell you a massive truth bomb. YOU DO. We all have the time it's just about MAKING IT A PRIORITY AND MAKING TIME. You are important too. You can’t provide to others if your glass is half filled. Take an extra 5 minutes in the shower, light some candles, moisturise your body, make a playlist of your favourite songs or find a good playlist on Spotify. Read your favourite book or eat your favourite food. All these suggestions don’t take much time to do but can help boost your mood.
2. Go for a walk; You do have time to make it a priority. Go for a walk and just be for a few minutes. Take in the smells, the trees, the birds, the sights. Exercise naturally boots up your serotonin levels. Walk as much as you can throughout this time.
3. Eat healthily and drink lots of water. A healthy outside starts from the inside. Eat serotonin boosting foods like bananas, walnuts, salmon. Avoid the KFC drive through or that Cadbury block of chocolate you see on sale it will only make you feel worse in the long run.
4. Call or go see a friend or someone close to you that instantly boosts your mood. Studies show that friends boost our happiness and improve our health.
5. Find something funny to watch, let it make you laugh. Laughter relieves physical tension and stress leaving your muscles relaxed for up to 45 minutes after. One I love to watch when I need a good laugh is Bridesmaids, that scene where they are at a dress fitting, and they all get food poising it is the best.
If you feel like you have felt not ok for a while reach out and seek professional help through your local GP. Taking that step is hard, but it’s the best thing you can do for yourself.
If you are feeling down but know its just a phase, just remember that it is ok to feel ok. We are all human we all go through ups as well as downs. Whatever your going through know tomorrow is a new day. Look after yourself, take care, I hope this blog helps you on your way.
Let Your Inner Beauty Shine
Bec xxx